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5 Ways You Can Believe In Yourself And Become Unstoppable

By Ana Maria “Penny” S. Bongato, ICF-ACC, FPM
Published January 04, 2022

What would you do if you knew you could not fail?

We all grow up in societies where we are conditioned to have self-doubt. To eliminate such traits, we must be ready to restructure our thoughts.

Learn how to believe in yourself and it will create many opportunities for you.

You must trust your next chapter because you are the author. While this might sometimes feel difficult, it is worthwhile.

How Can I Believe In Myself?

There is a certain point in our lives where we pass through specific experiences in life that make us begin to question ourselves — our worth, abilities, and even our competence in places where we can thrive. These limiting questions can affect our esteem and confidence.

Therefore, we must realize we cannot be better than everyone else, but we can become a better version of ourselves. 

However, many people tend to ask questions like “How can I believe in myself and be confident?” or “What can I do to improve my confidence?” 

Below are five ways you can believe in yourself and be confident:

1. Highlight Your Previous Successes And Reflect On Them

You can begin to learn to believe in yourself when you realize that life comes with successes and setbacks. The highs and lows are inevitable. When some people experience setbacks and challenges, they let such experiences dominate their thoughts and actions. Once this begins to happen, they start losing confidence in themselves.

Remember that you once had successes in the past. Your previous achievements can be hugely helpful in boosting your confidence level. Reflecting on your past accomplishments can provide you with the assurance that you can do beautiful things and succeed. If you succeeded once, you could definitely do it again!

2. Remove Fear Out Of The Equation

If negative factors were all members of the same family, then fear should be a sister to self-doubt. These two traits work similarly. When you become afraid of trying anything, you eventually lose confidence in yourself. 

Fear makes you think you probably can’t handle challenging situations, whereas you can. 

Many of us are not willing to take risks because we are afraid to fail. We have not even started, yet we are already scared of possible outcomes.

However, once you learn to act despite the fear, you may be surprised by how much your confidence level will increase.

3. Become A Basketful Of Positivity

Success comes as a result of overcoming setbacks. It may be safe to say that not a single person has tasted success without ever feeling the agony of defeat.

Most successful people conquered their failures and became more confident about themselves because they focused on the positive aspect of every loss and situation. They believe that with a positive mindset, they can achieve great things and execute important goals.

Developing a mindset of positivity is key to believing in yourself. When you’re more positive about your goals, there’s an assurance that you will accomplish them.

4. Never Create Room For Self-doubt

The major reason some people never recover from certain situations in life is that they begin to doubt themselves. Of course, it is only natural that we may lose confidence in ourselves when we experience setbacks in life. However, creating room for self-doubt should never be an option.

Once you begin to doubt yourself, you start letting self-deprecating and negative thoughts creep into your mind. These thoughts can drastically impact your confidence level, making you downplay your abilities.

The most important thing is knowing you will surely rise again. No matter how far you fall, you can always bounce back.

Never create room for self-doubt — it’s one thing that can make you forget how to believe in yourself.

5. Get In Touch With A Life Coach

While it is essential to recognize that you are your best adviser, it is also important to note that you cannot do it all alone. You need people to help and support you for you to grow in every aspect of your life.

Getting in touch with a Life Coach can help improve your confidence and self-belief. Life Coaches are experts who can assist you in achieving your goals and motivate you to become a better version of yourself.

Therefore, contacting a life coach — especially when you feel less confident and motivated — can go a long way in helping you overcome your problems.

Conclusion: Believing in yourself is not something that will automatically happen. 

You have to take gradual steps, and whenever you feel the self-doubt creeping in, reinforce your conviction.

You are as amazing as you see yourself in your mind’s eye. So whenever the opportunity comes for you to put yourself out there, do so.

The more you take action, the more you will believe in yourself and your ability. Nobody ever starts when they are sure of themselves, so wherever you find yourself, just start and keep trying after a setback.

𝐒𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐨 𝐦𝐮𝐜𝐡 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐝𝐞.

Your coach, 

Penny ❤️